WHY I'M GETTING MARRIED AT 21
Today isn't the first day that someone has left an awkward silence after saying 'WHAT you're only 21, you're too young to get married." My reaction to this is always the same, I will just stand there and smile or awkwardly laugh. Then, the minutes that follow, I'm just replaying it over in my head and filling up with rage. Why does my marriage have any affect on you, enough of an effect to negatively comment on it. Looking at me with sympathetic eyes like I'm some poor lost soul.
What this person doesn't know is that I'm judging them as much as they're judging me. But for totally different reasons, they're judging me because I don't fit in their acceptable category. I'm not doing what is normally done or in their eyes what I should be doing. But for me I'm judging them for being so small minded, and frankly ignorant.
For me, I'm getting married because it just makes sense. I have a person in my life that I want to experience everything with, and for us as a couple it joins us together in a really special way. I don't really like to give people an answer on why I'm getting married because it's personal, and it's something that normally just gets laughed at because I'm 'too young' to know what I'm doing.
It always just baffles me when people just live so far outside of their own heads. Feeling like their negative opinions are really important to anyone around them, especially to people they don't even know. Spare a thought for someone who doesn't want to listen to your opinion, or hear you're 'sage' advice dished out for the 20th time. No matter how 'above' someone you think you are, or how much you think they desperately need to hear your thoughts take a step back and please #stfu for second.
I just wanted to post this to tell anyone who has to suffer something similar to this, that whatever you are doing, don't let someone fill your head with their opinons. If it feels right for you, then it's perfect.
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